Sophie Elliott – how her death could just as easily have been your own – or your daughter’s

Sophie Elliott – how her death could just as easily have been your own – or your daughter’s …

Sophie ElliottOn 9 January 2008, this beautiful and intelligent woman, with a wonderful childhood behind her and a promising adult life ahead of her, was brutally murdered by her ex-boyfriend … in her own home, while her mother was there.

Now – 8 years later – one NZ woman still dies every 26 days at the hand of a violent partner – which means that over 100 women have died since Sophie’s murder.   New Zealand has one of the highest rates of domestic violence in the world.

Disgusting.

Recently I attended “An Evening with Lesley Elliott.”  Lesley is not only Sophie’s mother, she is an incredibly brave and strong woman who has made it Sophie’s legacy to raise the awareness of all young women, and their families and friends, of the signs of partner abuse through the Sophie Elliott Foundation.

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Sophie and Lesley

Lesley says at the time of Sophie’s murder, neither she nor Sophie really understood that Sophie was in an abusive relationship.  She didn’t like Clayton Weatherston and neither did any of Sophie’s friends, but they didn’t realise Sophie was actually in danger – until it was far too late.

Now Lesley travels the length and breadth of the country helping make young women and their families aware of the signs of abuse that she and Sophie missed.

I implore you to visit the Sophie Elliott Foundation website and to find out more about what they do – there are all sorts of valuable resources on there and I have singled out a few that really hit home for me with a young daughter who ***OMG we’re not ready for that*** will be dating in the not-too-distant future.

Check out the “Power & Control Dating Wheel” below – it summarises the characteristics of an out-of-control relationship

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Image via the Sophie Elliott Foundation website

How Sophie’s murderer personified these characteristics …

Power and control – he told Sophie she wasn’t bright enough (she earned a first class honors degree in Economics); needed to lose weight and inferred she wasn’t good-looking enough for him.  This was Sophie below – hardly overweight was she? And although I wouldn’t grace him with a photo here, let’s just say he was way out of his league with Sophie in the first place.

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Image via Sophie Elliott website

Possessiveness – he wanted to know where Sophie was at all times, yet didn’t feel she needed to know anything about his whereabouts.

Isolates you – he isolated Sophie from her friends – none of whom liked him.  I’d like to say here – if your family and friends don’t like him, there’s a good chance you shouldn’t be in a relationship with him.

Threats – he was emotionally and verbally abusive to Sophie on numerous occasions.

Suicide threats – I don’t know about this one, as of course I never knew Sophie and am only going on what Lesley told us at the meeting, but men who make suicide threats and say things like “If you leave me, I will hurt myself” are often only trying to manipulate you to suit themselves.

Changeable/volatile behaviour – Sophie never knew whether he really liked her or not.  He was into the relationship one day, then cold as ice the next.  Nothing was ever his fault – it was always Sophie’s.  Lesley said Sophie couldn’t understand him, and always wanted to try and change him.

Sexual – on one occasion, only days before Sophie’s murder, he tried to force her to have sex with him.  Thankfully Sophie escaped, but sadly, didn’t press charges.

Physical abuse – nothing needs to be said here, considering Sophie is no longer with us.

Communication – he was haphazard and unreliable – he wouldn’t reply to Sophie’s texts for hours and wouldn’t always answer her calls.  She felt insecure because of that behaviour.

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According to the Sophie Elliott Foundation website, 15-24 year old women are at the most risk of psychological, physical and sexual abuse at the hands of a partner.

PLEASE – visit the website and familiarise yourself with the early signs of an abusive relationship – so that both you and your daughter are aware of them.  There’s also a page that talks about the characteristics of a healthy -v- an unhealthy relationship (which includes a quiz to check the status of your relationship; the reasons people stay in a violent relationship; common excuses for violence;   what to do for help and contacts for help.

The Sophie Elliott Foundation, in association with the New Zealand Police, also runs a full-day educational course for Year 12 students called Loves-Me-Not (a play on the “He loves me; he loves me not” game.)  The course is very interactive and is designed to make students aware of what a healthy relationship looks and feels like.

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I have a tremendous amount of respect for Lesley Elliott – no one would blame her if she just sat back and grieved for Sophie – and of course she and her family will do that for the rest of their lives.  What is amazing about Lesley is that over and over again, she re-lives that horrible day and she does it so that other families won’t have to.

Sophie and Lesley were very close, and if two highly-intelligent women like that weren’t able to see the signs of an abusive and dangerous relationship, then there are going to be others in the same situation.  The signs often start subtly and build from there.  In the book that students receive free of charge via the Loves-Me-Not course , there are two blank pages; one to write down what you see as the characteristics of a healthy relationship and the other to revisit and write down the characteristics of your current relationship as a comparison.  If it doesn’t compare well – get help.

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This is the last photo of Sophie – taken by Lesley

Thank God for the Lesley Elliott’s of this world – they are courageous enough to try to make change in the face of an horrific personal situation.  It’s just unbearably sad they were put in that situation in the first place.

Do yourself and your family a favour … visit the website and educate yourself so that neither you, nor your daughter, ever end up like Sophie.

That is Sophie’s legacy.

Prevention via education …

Mumpty

 

 

Are apps and Photoshop ruining your self-esteem?

Are apps and Photoshop ruining your self-esteem without you even knowing it?

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Cindy Crawford in an “un-Photoshopped” shoot for Marie Claire.

Many of you will have seen this “un-Photoshopped/untouched” image of Cindy Crawford that’s been making it’s way around the internet lately.  Whilst I applaud Cindy for this, let’s not forget she is a supermodel who has made exorbitant amounts of money from her face and body FOR YEARS, so even without retouching, her “look” is quite unobtainable for most women.

When I originally planned this post, it was going to be a sneaky little share of some apps that you can use to de-wrinkle, brighten and smooth yourself out!  When I came across them I squealed with delight; used them on a couple of photos (see below) and then realised that actually, I didn’t really want to do that any more, because that isn’t me – I do have wrinkles, blemishes and teeth that aren’t glaringly white, but you know what?  I don’t hate those things.  And I’m 46 – and I’m not embarrassed about that – so they are pretty much a fact of life.

Anyway … this post is actually going to contradict itself a bit!  Firstly I’m going to mention three little apps you can use if you want to enhance yourself a bit for your photos – and why not?  That’s your decision.  But the other part of the post is going to talk about whether or not these apps (and Photoshop) are actually destroying your self-esteem without you even knowing it.

Ok … so the first app is called FaceTune – you can get it for free in the App Store.  See how my skin is so much smoother on the right?  The blemishes are minimised; the dark shadows under my eyes aren’t nearly as apparent and my neck looks miraculously younger and less lined?  So that’s FaceTune for you!  I did try to suggest the two images weren’t that different, but my daughter rapidly assured me they were!

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Another app that does a similar job is moreBeaute (again, free from the App Store) … this one allows you to adjust brightness, smoothness, detail and tone via the use of a slider and you can view an instant “before and after” to help you make the adjustments.  Kinda cool … and here’s another example (and yes, it does feel strange putting these massive pictures of myself on here!) …

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With this one, you can see I’ve smoothed EVERYTHING out and it looks like I’ve had a bloody good holiday and am all relaxed (OK – it looks like it was a winter holiday, ten years ago!)

So those are two apps you can use for your face shots.  But … there is another, I believe, almost frightening app that allows you to “plastic surgery-ise” your body as well!  Now this one I have never used – as in, I’ve never uploaded a photo having used it.  However … I did download it for a play and goodness, if you knew what you were doing with that particular app, you really can edit the hell out of yourself!  This app is called Plastic Surgery Simulator, and I just got the free “lite” version which only allows you to shrink or expand things – and I’ll leave it to your imagination as to which bits you’d want to expand!  Anyway – bearing in mind this is the lite version and I don’t really know how to use it, here is a before and after of what you can do with this type of app:

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OK, this photo is embarrassing – I took it to show off  that I was in Auckland in a swanky hotel, however can you see how much I’ve managed to shrink my waist?  And I don’t even really know how to use that app!  Now I know it’s kind of obvious if you know what you’re looking for and you have the “before” to compare with, but if you didn’t … I could just about get away with that right?  And imagine if I’d FaceTuned my face as well?  I’d be barely recognisable from the original!  Of course there are all sorts of filters and things on Instagram too, and artful ways of cropping things to maybe get rid of that squashed arm that makes you look obese, or cropping your photos off at the forehead so those pesky wrinkles don’t show etc – they’re all tricks of the trade and are fair and reasonable things to do I suppose!

So – as you can see, these apps can do pretty good, and relatively subtle (or not!) things to your photos.  But as I said earlier, I am also going to look at whether or not these apps and Photoshop are ruining your self-esteem without you even knowing it.

Have you ever looked at a girl you admire and marvelled at her tiny waist or her flawless skin or the fact she doesn’t have any wrinkles and there’s never a hair out of place?  Sometimes, if it looks too good to be true, it probably is!  And all power to her if that’s what she wants to do – but you wonder how she feels about meeting people in real life (IRL) knowing full well she doesn’t really look like her photos.

And as for Photoshop – you only have to look at these images below to see that even the girls who are a) genetically blessed; b) have had their hair and makeup done by professionals and c) are shot by professional photographers, with the most sophisticated equipment under the right lighting and with all the other tricks of the trade – they STILL get Photoshopped at the end.  So realistically, even THEY don’t look like them!  I mean just look at this shot!

Before and afterAnd that’s not even considered “serious editing” in the industry apparently!  Hmmmm …

So where do you sit on this issue?  Do you think “why not, each to their own” or “oh my gosh – we have to stop this for our daughter’s sakes?”

My thoughts are that it’s been going on for years now and I don’t know that we can ever stop it.  So I’m trying to act “locally” by sitting my ten-year-old daughter down and showing her these “before-and-afters” so that she knows that what you see, is not necessarily reality.  And I will keep doing that.  The other thing I try really hard not to do, is to moan about my weight, or if I’m having a bad hair day or whatever, in front of her.  Sometimes I slip up, and in those cases I try to make a joke about it and flounce off saying “oh well – it could be a lot worse!

I believe the pinup and burlesque “scenes” have a pretty good attitude to body acceptance and that’s one of the reasons I love them so much.  They celebrate curves and angles and everything in between.  And don’t forget – lean girls can have their feelings hurt just as easily as bigger girls. We’re all beautiful and whatever the body you have, it’s yours and you need to love it and treat it right.

Let me know what you think about all this – either by leaving a comment, or by e-mailing me at mumpty@mumptystyle.com

Love, laughter lines and generous waists …

Mumpty

 

 

 

Extra for experts: check out this video – amazing and frightening all in one go!

 

 

The Grand Dame of New Zealand burlesque

The Grand Dame of New Zealand burlesque …

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Miss Chevious Cinders on stage at the Promenade event – 2014 NZ Burlesque Festival

Imagine if you will, someone who, on one of her Facebook pages describes herself as a “retired locomotive engineer” and on the other, as an “entertainer” – more accurately, a burlesque entertainer.

From who she was, to who she is; this is the story of Miss Chevious Cinders and how she became the Grand Dame of New Zealand burlesque.

When she’s not “in character” as Miss Chevious Cinders, she is simply known as Cindy. Born in Takapuna, Auckland in 1936 (yes, she’s 78!) and bought up by her grandparents, Cindy says she always knew she was “different.”  And different she is … in the very best of ways!

Cindy now lives her life as a transsexual woman and is actively involved in the NZ burlesque scene. She says she has never been happier, but it wasn’t always that way …

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Cindy at the Pride Parade 2014

As early as the mid-60’s, Cindy says she was cross-dressing, but only in the privacy of her home – she took photos, but developed them herself, scared to take them anywhere in case she was found out. She started working for the railways in March 1954, where she fired steam locomotives and drove steam, diesel and electrical trains until her retirement in November 1990. Cindy lived in the NZ Rail Hostel for thirteen years, and in 1965 went to her first “vice versa” party where she said she “had a lot of fun.” In 1975 she met her future wife whom she married three years later and fathered two girls – Cindy thought her cross-dressing days were over. Unfortunately for Cindy’s marriage however, they weren’t – she returned to her cross-dressing ways; got found out and got kicked out in January 1994!

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Onstage at the NZ Burlesque Festival 2014 in Palmerston North

During that period, Cindy started to cross-dress more often and when she discovered the internet and typed in “cross-dressing” on her computer, a whole new world opened up for her. She joined transgender groups, re-named herself Cindy and met her long-time friend, Dot. Cindy and Dot started going out together dressed as women, mostly after dark, and mostly to the late night pictures. Cindy felt she’d worked out what had been “bugging” her all those years and in 2002 started hormone treatment as the first step in her journey to becoming a woman. A year later she officially changed her name to Karen Cindy Jane and after selling her home in 2004, found herself with some available funds and decided to pursue sexual reassignment surgery in Thailand. She and Dot flew over on the 20th of March 2005; Cindy had the surgery and they had a holiday together in Thailand. The rest, as they say, is history.

Now, nearly ten years later, Cindy has firmly established herself as one of the most colourful and loveable characters on the NZ burlesque scene and is actively involved in the pride movement too. She says all transgender people really want is acceptance; not to be treated differently or to be changed, but just to be accepted and loved for who they are.

Cindy credits her happiness in the last few years since she had her sexual reassignment surgery to the level of acceptance she’s found from the people in the community she’s created for herself. As a woman who has accepted and embraced her true self, Cindy is finally living the life she deserves. She’s one of the lucky ones too – her family have accepted her as she is and she enjoys the company of her two daughters and eight grandchildren, who call her Gran.

At 78 years old, Cindy is showing no sign of slowing down! She’s a regular performer on the burlesque scene, and not just in Glamilton either – Cindy travels all over the country, and often overseas as well, to perform and to be an extremely supportive and enthusiastic audience member. There probably hasn’t been a major burlesque show in the country that Cindy’s missed for a long time and there’s a photo of her and nearly every international burlesque performer who’s ever visited NZ on her “wall of fame.”

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Cindy with internationally-renowned burlesque performer, Perle Noire

She attends workshops too and this year was invited to perform at the NZ Burlesque Festival in the Promenade event – a performance for which she was proud to receive a standing ovation from her adoring audience. Her Pink Panther routine has reached almost iconic status here in New Zealand, and has been performed for many lucky audiences – I’ve personally seen it several times, and each time, it makes me happy and so proud to be a friend of Cindy’s.

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Miss Chevious Cinders in her infamous Pink Panther costume

Cindy’s Facebook status updates show a woman on a mission! She’s hopping a bus to a show in Palmerston one minute; then she’s back for a few days, then catching a plane to Australia to attend a festival somewhere. Then she’s off up to Auckland to watch a show and attend a workshop, then back home. She shows up regularly at burlesque class and often has a new set of fans, or another addition to her costume wardrobe to show us!

She appeared in the “Bring Back Burlesque Christmas Show” at the Riverlea Theatre in 2013 and has overseas trips and plans booked all the way out to April next year!

At the NZ Burlesque Festival this month, Cindy earned the title of “Industry Groupie” which was an honour very fitting indeed!  Aside from her groupie activities, she spends time with her friends and family and the boys down at the Workingman’s Club!  Phewww … I can only dream of having that much energy now, much less at 78!

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Mumpty with Saacha Midnight and Miss Chevious Cinders

So all in all, Cindy would say it’s been a good life so far and there’s still lots more fun to be had; lots more shows and workshops to attend and lots more international burlesque stars to be photographed with!

Acceptance and love … they really do make the world go round … and characters like Cindy, aka Miss Chevious Cinders, add that extra layer of sparkle and character.

Extra for experts:
If you’d like to watch the short film Cindy has made about her transition from male to female, you can click here.

Click here to watch Cindy’s peformance at the 2014 NZ Burlesque Festival in Palmerston North.

You can visit Cindy’s Facebook pages here:
facebook.com/CindyLewis
facebook.com/MissCheviousCinders

Love (and acceptance!) …

Mumpty

 

 

The curious creatures of Auckland burlesque – revisited

The curious creatures of Auckland burlesque: revisited 

A little while ago, Mumpty wrote some fictional stories on a few of her favourite Auckland burlesquers.  And this Friday night, she’s done a wee update.  Do enjoy …

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Galactic

Remember that saying:

Always be you …
unless you can be a fierce, intergalactic alien queen.
Then, always be a fierce, intergalactic alien queen.

No?  Seriously?  Well, it was inspired by Duchess deBerry, known simply to her nearest and dearest as The Duchess.

The Duchess had always been interested in space travel and so when her dear friend Sir Richard Branson (who rather fancied her) offered her the opportunity to accompany him on one of the first Virgin Airways trips to the moon, she jumped at the chance.  What antipodean temptress wouldn’t really?

Soon after the initial excitement had died down though,  The Duchess’s mind turned to more practical matters – what would she wear on the moon? She had no intention of wearing one of those ridiculous Michelin suits that’s for sure, but her current wardrobe didn’t inspire either.   As always though, The Duchess had a plan,  and that plan involved her illustrious pals at Asphyxia Couture and a brief to put together a little something something for her soiree on the moon.

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Image by Black Friday Photography

She rather  liked what they came up with – it was certainly a statement piece, but practical too she thought.  Her hands were free and she had plenty of things to tie moon rocks and that kind of thing onto.  Sure, she could have done with a handbag, and it might get a bit chilly, but she wasn’t going to be outside on the moon for long periods of time was she?  She assumed she’d be able to pop in and out of the space shuttle at will – I mean even though she wasn’t paying for it, this was a commercial flight, and surely Sir Richard wouldn’t allow a passenger to get cold on the moon?  That would be ridiculous.

No, this little number was perfect and The Duchess shivered with delight as she settled down happily into the seat beside Sir Richard, gratefully accepting the glass of Cristal he handed her. #suchfun

Lilly Loca: disrupted

Lilly Loca, as we know, is a time traveller.  Just last year in fact, she travelled  from 1920’s New York to 2016 in Auckland, where she spends a great deal of time pirouetting seductively on stages around that fair city wearing the showgirl’s version of an itsty-bitsy-teeny-weeny-yellow-polka-dot-bikini and a purple-hued “do” Ru Paul would be proud to own.  But that isn’t enough for Lilly’s outrageous soul, so in an age where “disruption” is a buzz word in business circles, Lilly has decided to try a bit of disruption herself, and thus Gary Krumbert has emerged onto the scene. 

When I say Gary has emerged onto the scene, I mean more that he has BURST onto the scene and not in a glamorous, overnight-sensation kind of way; but in a more clumsy, goofy kind of way.  Because that’s the kind of guy Gary is; he’s a goofy drag king, born of the always glamorous, and sometimes androgynous, Lilly Loca.  He’s been around a while, but more recently has begun to make his presence known.

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One might be forgiven for assuming Gary is the quieter side of the Loca/Krumbert duo, and indeed he does tend to fly under the radar a bit.  I think his slightly nerdy persona  engenders a level of trust in people that allows him to get under their skin without them really even knowing it.

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Image by Peter Jennings

For Gary is most certainly not the quieter side of the duo.  Recently a naive judge referred to him as the “Veteran Virgin King” – well, let me tell you, nothing could be further from the truth.  Gary, in fact, is quite inspired by that raunchy, ginger-bearded Tudor King of old, King Henry the VIIIth.  So much so, in fact, that he has a set of silk stockings and a hat set with a feather on a jaunty angle that he brings out on certain occasions, and it really does drive the ladies quite mad with lust; as you can imagine I’m sure.

So this one time, at Drag Camp, Gary did something quite naughty – even for Gary.  He TOOK Lilly Loca’s rainbow-hued “do” and used it onstage as a “costume piece” shall we say.  To make the situation much, much worse, the costume piece was a merkin (uuuuuuuggghhhhhh – I know, right!)  Lilly, as you can imagine, was LIVID when she recognised it from her front-row seat in the audience.  She leapt out of her seat, scaled the stage and advanced upon Gary with a look in her eye that inspired sheer terror in his.  Such terror, in fact, that he scuttled offstage at the speed of light with Lilly’s “do” flapping between his legs and Lilly in hot pursuit.  The audience squirmed uncomfortably as a loud slap, a shrill squeal and a muffled thump could be heard backstage.  A few more thumps and squeals occurred and a couple of audience members burst into titters of barely suppressed nervous laughter, before the EMCEE Felicity Frockaccino hastily took over and began to belt out a rather raucous version of “I will survive” in a trembling vibrato.

Broken legRumour has it Gary was EXTREMELY lucky to get away with just a broken leg and he’s currently overseas on an extended vacay while his poor, battered body recuperates.  Reliable sources say he’ll be back when the heat dies down and Lilly has calmed her farm.    #suchfun

Leda Petit: the rise and fall (and rise) of an assassin …

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Image by James Yang

When last we left Leda Petit, she was doing well as a secret assassin, making money by the bushel and lurking in bars, drinking champagne out of shoes and fraternising alluringly with her marks before she made her final, lethal move. 

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But things have gone rather downhill since then …

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Image by James Yang

Sadly, our Leda has become a little too fond of the high-rolling lifestyle she can now afford as a result of her prodigious “hit” rate.  It’s a never-ending cycle of a whiskey here, a cigar there – a line of coke up her nose; “but never before lunchtime darling – I have standards.

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Image by Peter Jennings

One particularly snipey member of the Auckland paparazzi could almost be  excused for comparing Leda’s behaviour to that of Amy Winehouse at her worst.   But really, that would be unfair – as she says, Leda has standards, and she would NEVER go on stage and deliver a less than stellar performance like Amy did on the odd occasion.

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Yes, while these days Leda is having a lot more fun than your average punter, she is also getting the job done.  I mean really, when you think about it, she’s living a glamorous Old Hollywood lifestyle that rivals that of Frank Sinatra and his cronies.  Of course, she’s doing it Her Way (do you see what I did there?) and I have it on good authority that despite the heavy nights and the early morning stumbles home to her apartment, Leda can be relied upon to be bright-eyed, bushy-tailed and ready to mingle come midnight when the “respectable” bars open and Leda’s marks await.  Why look …

LedaSee what I mean?  She really is a consummate professional, our Leda. #suchfun   

Yours in updated curious creatures …  

Mumpty

Updated taking stock tag

Updated “taking stock” tag …

Hotel selfie from when I was in Christchurch recently for the Pride in Print Awards.

Hello bloggy-verse!  So I haven’t done a “taking stock tag” for a while now – in fact the last one was here – and I do so enjoy them, so here goes – please enjoying reading along to see what’s happening in Mumpty’s little world!

Making: 9 page weekly newsletters for my daughter’s netball team.  She has a super-coach who is taking our team ahead in leaps and bounds and the newsletter is my little contribution.
Cooking: peanut butter banana chocolate brownies (shhhhh … it was one of those endless video recipes off Facebook that I save and then never make – but today I did, and oh.so.good!)
Drinking: if only!  Actually, I am rather enjoying long blacks with full cream – they are ketogenic too!
Reading: “The Shadow Year” by Hannah Richell.  I have just finished it and it is one of the BEST books I’ve read – ever. Read it – you’ll love it! So twisty-turny and full of promise!
Wanting:  someone I love to get better quickly.  And I’m always wanting more frocks and more Louis of course – that’s the shallow, frivolous part of me.  The serious part of me wants the world to be a safer, happier place for my daughter and her generation to grow up in.
Looking: for opportunities.
Playing: on Facebook and Instagram before I go to sleep. Pretty sure it’s bad for my circadian rhythms, but oh-so-good for my social little soul!
Wishing: the person alluded to above a speedy recovery.
Enjoying: my weekly coffee/catchup with some beautiful people I love.  I’m also enjoying the way our front door looks – we painted the white door navy and doesn’t it look great!


Waiting: why wait?  Just go out and do it!
Liking: the way my fat little tummy is shrinking as a result of my ketogenic diet (well, mostly anyway!) … and also the way this eating plan makes me feel in general.
Wondering: how we best ensure our daughter has an amazing life.
Loving: soooo many things.  Mainly my family, my friends and my home.
Pondering: processes.  I find it fascinating how once you embark on a process, it takes over, everyone does their little bit and amazing things get achieved.
Considering: whether or not I should take up pistol shooting, thus revoking my status as a Pistol Club widow?!
Watching: Facebook Lives with Deborah Murtagh of The Ketogenic Switch; so much passion.
Hoping: it’s a secret – I’ll tell ya later!
Marvelling: at just how cool having a daughter really is!

Needing: a money tree!
Wearing: frocks, frocks and more frocks!
Following: my dreams.
Noticing: that as much as I love pretty and expensive things, they’re becoming less and less important as I get older.  Instead experiences are important; time with family, coffee with friends – that sort of stuff.  Although don’t get me wrong … I still want a massive collection of Louis Vuitton and Christian Louboutin – I’m not fully evolved yet!
Knowing: that self-confidence is not the same as confidence, and although I am self-confident, sometimes that doesn’t translate into confidence, meaning I don’t always “sell myself” when I should.  Oh so convoluted!
Thinking: that I should be doing more of what I love.
Admiring: the many and varied talents of my family and friends.
Sorting:  ways to turn my dreams into plans.

Buying: a new school uniform for our baby because she got into the school we wanted her to get into … whoop, whoop!
Getting: good vibes about new directions.
Bookmarking: ketogenic recipes.
Disliking: running a wee bit behind on some life goals.
Opening: my heart and mind.
Giggling: at three-way text messages with my daughter and my partner.
Feeling: anxious about one situation and excited about another.
Snacking: on two squares of 90% cocoa dark chocolate.  So lush.
Coveting: this BEAUTIFUL handbag.  The Louis Vuitton Speedy in Monogram Empreinte.

Helping: by doing my small part to help good netballers become great netballers!
Hearing: when I should be listening!

What have you been up to?  Feel free to do your own version – tag me in if you do – I’d love to have a read!

Love and (probably) over-sharing …

Mumpty